When Family Walks Away

“Teach us to give and not count the cost. ” St. Ignatius de Loyola

I am the only girl out of four brothers. I am the third oldest. I came from a divorced, dysfunctional family.

At the age of 14, I told the school nurse that I would not live with either one of my parents. She asked me if there was other family. I told her no. It came down to my own decision of putting myself into foster care. The events that led up to the decision of placing myself into the foster care system, perhaps at one point, I will write about that.

I look back now and I see that being at such a young age of 14, it was a very adult decision to make. It was only by the Grace of God that I made that decision.

While I knew of God and was Baptized as a child into the Roman Catholic Church, that was as far as my up bringing with God went.

“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’” Jeremiah 29:11

God would have it that I would meet a wonderful woman and this woman would forever change the course of my life through God, Jesus and Our Blessed Mother Mary.

Fast-forward to 30+ years later, I am a mother of two adult sons, a wife for 25+ years, a daughter, a sister, a fur mommy to two Boston Terriers (my girls 😊) and I think out of all of these, being a daughter to God is my greatest accomplishment, a work in progress, never ending, alway trying to improve.

For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. – Galatians 1:10

I think the hardest thing for anyone to accept is the emotional and mental attack’s from family.

When we think about family, we see unconditional love, acceptance, hope, trustworthy, a safe place; for me, this is what my understanding of what family was supposed to be.

With time, time brings healing to everything. I am at a place in my life now that happiness is truly within, and, I have a great peace. Make the decision today or at least- consider – to stop seeing yourself through somebody else’s eyes. The only Sets of Eyes that you should ever be trying to get approval from, is that of God and Jesus.

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